Introducing Me to Myself

Our lives are nothing but a complex phenomenon which is absolutely jam-packed with limitations. Every single day, our thoughts limit how we move forward in the world. We don't apply for that job, because we think we're not good enough. We continue that addiction, because we don't think we're strong enough to break it off. We keep doing the "same old, same old" because that's just you.

I'd like to tackle the underlying root behind all limiting thoughts. Behind all of the suffering and the stories we tell ourselves, is the idea that... There is such a thing as "Me." Let's think about it for a moment. Look at yourself right now. Is there really a "me" in this current moment? You might think that you're the body. Or a spirit inside that body. Perhaps your belief is that you're part of a big mass of consciousness. Whatever you think, that's all right. But also consider that it may also be just another limiting belief. And just for now, witness what is happening. If you really look hard enough, without going into memory for a moment!, you'll realize that all that is with you right now is a phenomenon of awareness.

You're seeing, hearing & experiencing. But in this particular moment, You're not limited. You're not addicted. When we stop identify with the "Me" that we're all so desperately attached to, we lose the self and suddenly all of the things we think define us drop away. All that we are is what is here in this present moment.

Think about it. There isn't a "me" to have an addiction or sadness. And that also means there isn't even a "me" to have happiness, too! It also means there isn't a "me" to have any of the long-standing problems and issues you believe you have. They're just limiting thoughts. In the awareness that you are, without going into memory, those issues don't exist.

In other words if you really drop the limitations and notice what is really here, you'll discover. All there is is the inherent freedom that you already are. Every single thought is a limitation. Let go of the limitation and discover the freedom you can only ever be. My limit is Sky!

Happy BYBS and a Wonderful week ahead.

Wrestling with Pig

Lots of heartache can be prevented by being a little careful while routine discussion with your fellow mates. You never know when your discussion may turn into arguments. The best way to win an argument is to avoid it. An argument is one thing you will never win. If you win an argument but lose a customer, friend, job, marriage. What kind of victory is it which leaves you pretty empty?

Here you win to lose. Arguments result from inflated ego. Arguing is like fighting a losing battle. Even if one wins, the cost may be more than the victory is worth. These emotional battles leave a residual ill will even if you win.

In an argument, both people are trying to have the last word. Argument is nothing more than a battle of egos and results in a yelling contest. A bigger fool than me one who knows it all is the one who argues with him!

Discussion entails not only saying the right thing at the right time but also leaving unsaid what need not be said. Children should be taught the art of speaking up but not talking back. As adults we should learn the art of disagreeing without being disagreeable. The way a person handles an argument reflects their upbringing.

I learned a long time ago never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty and besides, the pig likes it. - Cyrus Ching

Happy BYBS

Low Esteem

This incident took place about eleven years ago in my life and I remember it so often in order to understand the psyche of my fellow mate, 'Subbu'. I try to go into his shoes to think how I would have tackled my low esteem. Now I decided to blog it.

I and Subbu were sharing a good relation. I never realised when his small deeds started irritating me and I started avoiding. Our frequency of meeting fell down from six to two meets in a weeks time. I tried to entertain his each and every call but I was unable to realise when did I hurted him for which he developed lot of hate for me. May be his expectatrions were too high from me.

This happened when after a lot of avoidance one day my heart slightly melts when Subbu asked me to accompany for a lunch along with his girlfriend. Though in the days when we enjoyed good relationship with each other he use to discuss a lot about his GF “Shelly”. For this strange offer of unexpected lunch I hesitantly agreed to grace with my presence, this adventure. I was slightly curious for the meet them and on my way to them was thinking to share my jokes on their funny early clashes.

Finally the day came, the lunch was ventured at a expensive posh restaurant of the town, I was totally free that day and when I reached there I found him waiting me near the restaurant entrance in that wintry afternoon. He greeted me with warm gesture. I asked him surprisingly, “Where is Shelly!' She'll be joining us soon, he welcomed me by holding my arm with a drag.

We moved to the upper story of the restaurant and gossiped a little with the sips of lukewarm water. After ten minutes or so when I find that Shelly didn't joined us I put forward my concern and said, "May be she is stuck with some problem" My slight intent was or may be we can order some light starters. Before I could utter any thing suddenly Subbu roused from his place and begged my pardon to go to the wash room. I smilingly nodded and was busy peeping on to my next table a beautiful foreigner couple.

Up to next ten minutes I didn't realised of anything, after some time when the waiter approached me after once making him stay back for the reason I was waiting for my guests (hosts). I got up from my table and moved towards the wash room. After a thorough check up when I made sure that he is not there, I tried convincing myself as if he had just gone to check the status of Shelly out and he might be feeling awkward in front of me. Thinking all this I walked back to my table but then suspiciously I went t the entrance and checked outside. After two to four minutes I was able to make it out that he has left me all alone.

After this incident we never tried to see each other. Though I was not able to conclude anything concrete out of it. Only I can say, may be i hurted him somewhere due to my some superiority complexes, he did this to let me down in his own way. For me it was his best shot to save his Downfallen Poor Esteem.